The Writing Spider

I’m sidelined this weekend by an iced knee and bit of pain, so I’m sharing one of my favorite old posts, from October 2011, with a brief update. Gentle Peace to all. xoxoxo Kitty


It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single spider in possession of a good web must be in want of prey. But in the garden this season, I learned again that there are many ways we nourish and are nourished.

I first met Jane in early August, when I was weeding the large garden near the river. She had woven her distinct web across one of the sage plants, and its intricate stabilimenta zig-zagged, zipper-like, across the orb-web’s center. She was the largest and most brilliantly-colored garden spider I’d ever seen, so I fetched the camera and took several pictures from a respectful distance, and later researched her species and background. Her scientific classification was logical: Kingdom: Animalia; Phylum: Anthropoda; Class: Arachnida; Order: Araneae; Family: Araneidae; Genus: Argiope; and Species: Argiope Aurantia (like an orange, though she was colored in brilliant yellow and black).

When I learned that one of her nicknames is “the writing spider,” she of course became further classified as a kindred spirit, and I christened her “Jane” after Jane Austen, a name to which she did not evidence rejection. For more than a month, we met several times a week, and she hospitably endured my observations.

Understand, Gentle Reader, that were Jane to visit my home’s interior, the sound of my arachnophobic screams would make international (and possibly intergalactic) news, but spiders do not bother me when they are outside, weaving their webs and living their lives within the larger web of nature, the home we all share.

Miss Jane, I learned, liked to remain in one place for most of her life, a homebody like myself. The creation of her web took hours and its complexity was miraculous: its architecture could be up to two feet across and up to eight feet off the ground. She usually remained at the web’s midpoint, head down (as I always found her), awaiting innocent prey’s entanglement. When I met her, the remaining wing of a swallowtail butterfly decorated her web, as did bits and pieces of insects.

Jane consumed the center of her web each night, possibly for nourishment or to recycle chemicals used in the web’s construction, and re-wove it daily, including the delightful “written” zipper (“stabilimenta”) across the middle. I could not discover a definitive  explanation for this part of her web, except that some scientists have suggested it may serve as camouflage or in some way attract prey. I also learned that among orb-weavers, the Aurantia is known for her unusually tidy and clean web. Other orb-weavers are content with disorder, clutter, and mess. Jane rose yet again in my regard and respect. I never met Jane’s mate. He would have woven a “lesser” web nearby, including an escape line in case she attacked him; at any rate, he died after their love was consummated and she likely ate him. (Understandably, my husband Phillip does not like this part of Jane’s story.) But Jane’s partner did exist, for one day I discovered the egg sac, a delicate brown silken ball almost an inch in diameter, fixed near the web’s enter, and Jane hanging nearby, guarding it as vigilantly as  any artist watches over her creation. I read that within this tiny ball, up to 1,400 eggs were settled and would be harbored till spring, were they not harmed by birds, the elements, or other likely hazards.

We had a gentle frost one night several weeks after Jane and I became garden companions, and Jane was nowhere to be found; it is the common way for females of her species to die. I mourned her loss; we had an elegant, mutually intriguing (or so it seemed to me) relationship.

When I cut back the plants this weekend and neared the sage that was Jane’s home, I gently severed the branch holding her egg sac, and placed it under an evergreen shrub, settled within a bed of sedum and violets.

If the egg sac survives through winter, one day next spring, I could see what seems to be pollen or dust collecting within the silken sac…the tiny bodies of Jane’s progeny responding to Love’s call to write their own life stories. I hope some will decide to stay and grace our gardens with the elegance and artistry—and kinship—I shared with their mother.

We’re all here such a precious little while, invited to write the words, dance the dance, and create the art seeded within our spirits at its inception; the whole of life depends upon both our singular contributions and our abilities to form connections that welcome, encourage, and sustain the unique contributions of others.

It may be in the nature of the Kingdom Animalia to capture and devour prey; however, the instinct to forge connection and co-exist with deep humility, hospitality, and respect is also a lovely part of our mysterious story. In relationship, we nourish and are nourished.

Thank you, Jane.

Update: Every year since I published this, I’ve searched for members of Jane’s successive generations, and there have been many. This year I found several, and was happy to welcome them and share stories. This one looks so much thinner than Jane; I wonder how our months-long drought and diminished insect population have affected her. I’m checking often, as able, for her egg sac and hope we’ll see her daughters next year. Our families have formed a connection, you see, and that is rare and precious.

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And this beautiful orb weaver spun her amazing web on the exterior (thank heaven) of a deck door. She’s not as large as this photo makes her appear, but she is quite an attractive specimen. Were she inside my home, as I mentioned 10 years ago, my head would no longer be attached, having exploded with fright, but outside where I can safely admire her, I must admit she’s gorgeous, and we have had so few guests for so long, that it feels good to practice hospitality again, to form a tentative relationship and be grateful for her presence and gifts.


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10 thoughts on “The Writing Spider

  1. Well first off I hope that knee feels better soon. And I feel you! Not too long ago just as I was ambling off to bed…. a large spider dashed under the bed. Which let me to leave my husband to his fate and move promptly into the guest bedroom. May I humbly suggest a gadget called the critter catcher. Said gadget was deployed the following morning as I found her – in the guest bedroom! It followed me…


    1. Oh, dear! That sounds like an exciting evening! I laughed out loud.

      My husband is the current critter catcher of spiders; we both try to catch and release indoor guests who are happier outside, but I’m still unable to approach arachnids in the house. A lifelong fear. 😉

      Thank you for sharing, and for your kind words, Beate! Gentle peace to you.


  2. Kitty, I love this beautiful story, and your love & appreciation of all living things. It’s a good thing to have an open heart for everything.


    1. Thank you for your kindness, Mary. Yes, cultivating an open heart is a lifelong practice, isn’t it? And a lovely one. Be safe and well, and gentle peace to you.


  3. I loved this story! When I was a young girl, another child once told me that if the writing spider wrote my name in her web it meant I was going to die. Sounds ridiculous now, but I believed it and stopped by her web every day to see if my name was there. Of course, it never occurred to me that the spider wouldn’t know my name. I’m not afraid of spiders, though. Whenever one of my second grade teammates finds a spider in her room, they send for me to remove it.


    1. Yikes! That was a frightening experience; what a scary thing to tell you! We live in such mysteries as children! I’m glad you didn’t develop a fear of spiders.

      Thank you for sharing your own story, and for rescuing spiders in your teammates’ rooms. 💕🕷💕

      Gentle peace to you. Stay safe and well!


  4. Hi Kitty – hoping you are up and about soon. This morning I woke to a dead spider in my sink – having read your post, I happily describe her as pretty! Something prompted me to see if there was an egg sack nearby and sure enough there it was neatly tucked in a gap in my window frame. Inspired by your tale, I gingerly carried the egg sack along with dead mother spider to a warm spot outside, covered and safe from predators. May the little ones grow up and stay outside (please!) so thanks to you Kitty I now won’t be overrun by pretty spiders in my kitchen!
    Much love xox


  5. Ha! Thank you for your kind words and your wonderfully kind deed! Blessings on the tender spider eggs and gratitude to your spider for her creative, generous work on Earth. What a beautiful member of our web you are, ant simon…and I agree, out of the kitchen is better than within its walls. Yikes. xoxoxo and gentle peace.


  6. Oh your poor knee, I do hope that gets better soon.
    Well my dear gal, that should be published, a short story? What a brilliant piece of writing! Such a pleasure to meet your spiders, how you drew me in. Like many of your posts, I’ll be keeping this for a re-read. Huge love and hugs to


    1. Thank you, my dear friend. I’m so happy you enjoyed Jane’s story. She was a very special buddy that summer, a good teacher.

      Knee is improving, thanks! Xoxo


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