The Judge: This character is always with us, cutting down our looks, actions, attempts to learn, be, and do all we can. It can keep us from stepping into new ideas, behaviors, patterns and forms of thought and expression. You can’t do THAT! What are you THINKING? You’ll FAIL!
The Drill Sargeant: Did you make a list? Did you check it? You’re not following your routine! Everything is out of order. You should…you always…that’s not…BE AFRAID.
They often harmonize and sing duets throughout our days.
Sometimes, we know where the voices originated; sometimes they’re a distillation of many we’ve known; sometimes we create our own sabotage masters.
Most of us manage to carry on, tell them to be still, accomplish goals in spite of them, and become approximations of who we’d like to be.
But now, many of us have been robbed of our busyness, and the voices are trying to take control. Storm-trooping through our psyches and dumping loads of stress at the beginning and end of every thought.
You should! You can’t! Never! Always! What’s happening? Be afraid! You’re not in charge! Do this! That! WHAT IS HAPPENING? Loud inarticulate shriek!
Now is the time to go gently and offer yourself forgiveness for mistakes and loving kindness for all the feelings that are flowing through, faster than you can name them. Routines can be set aside for a while. Rest can happen whenever you’re tired, even a moment of deep-breathing and closed eyes can quiet the voices.
Notice the hidden invitations, turn the voices around and mother them into peace.
Banish the word “normal” and take life in very small bites for a while. Let yourself find your footing. You can do it.
The bedding can go a week without changing.
Wait, there’s an invitation! See how you do that? You catch the voice and turn it back as an invitation to be kind to yourself.
Beds aren’t changed?
Are we O.K.?